I went to a women’s event and the lady that was in charge was an ordained minister. Which I thought was so cool!! I love to see women in roles that are not traditionally ours…I always say a woman can do anything and, a lot of times, do it better ???? (Sorry Guys…lol)
Which is what brings me to our topic…Being Authentic. When we talk about being your authentic self we need to address 3 things:
Being True to Yourself
Honesty– When you have to address something Honesty is always the best policy. However, it can be hard and uncomfortable to address an issue with someone. No one wants to hurt someone’s feelings! Because of this, I have adopted the “Oreo Cookie Method”.
This is where you address it first with something good (cookie layer) then the actual issue (Cream in the middle) last finish with something encouraging. This will help you feel better about being honest and help the receiver hear it easier.
Integrity– Integrity is a quality of being honest and having strong moral principles. Do not sugar coat your business. If you sugar coat your business then you are not being your authentic self. Sometimes we need to have these critical conversations with people to help them realize something they potentially need to work on. BUT do it from the position of Love. Don’t come from a place of anxiousness, selfishness or egocentricity. Always have that person’s best interest at heart. I always say If you come from a place of love you can never be wrong.
Being True to Yourself– I see so many people comparing themselves to others. While it is a great idea to emulate someone you respect in your niche, it’s NOT a good idea to compare your success to theirs. We are all unique in our own way and we all have something different to share. Stay true to what you believe, how you operate and who you are in your core. Most importantly give yourself some Love. Recognize and celebrate even your smallest wins.
As leaders and Coaches, we have an obligation to help future clients and business associates realize what potential they have laying inside them. When you are True to yourself, Honest with yourself and you operate with Integrity you can’t go wrong. There is a freedom in being your Authentic Self!